Letting Go of Your Ex (2023)
Dr. Cortney Warren, PhD, ABPP
At some point in our lives, almost all of us will go through an excruciatingly painful breakup that absolutely rocks our world. It may be so all-consuming that you feel addicted to your ex. Desperate to reconnect and understand what happened, you can become fixated on your former lover as if you need them to survive. As if your life has lost all meaning without them by your side. As if you no longer have purpose or value on your own. This experience often leaves us feeling depressed, anxious, and lost without a clear picture of how to move on—even when you desperately want...
I’ll never forget the night it happened. It was a quiet evening, one of those where time seems to stretch and nothing else feels important. I hadn’t seen my ex in months, and even though we had parted ways amicably, I couldn’t deny that there was still a certain pull between us. That magnetic force was what led me to his door, though I didn’t quite realize it until I was already there, nervously standing in front of him.
It wasn’t supposed to happen. We had both moved on in our own ways, I thought. There had been the obligatory “catch-up” texts—those awkward check-ins that didn’t really mean anything but still felt like a way to...